Don't Let Those New Years Blahs, Blues & Humbugs Get You Down1/16/2009 6:54:00 PM
By Larry L. Nichols
One of the biggest and most time wasting and energy draining mistake that approximately 90% of us human souls make each year right about this time, is to get all ticked off, frustrated and annoyed with ourselves for already dropping the ball on that big “New Years Resolution” that was going to completely turn our life around into something utterly, magically wonderful in one sudden fell swoop.
Please do yourself and the rest of us a really huge favor and simply decide NOT to go around beating yourself up over something so innately and intrinsically common as merely showing clear and definitive signs that you are, in fact, HUMAN!
Remember, “Rome wasn’t built in a day” and Rome was just a bunch of inanimate material without any mind, heart, subconscious conscience or soul full of a life long collection of various disorganized and often conflicting emotions, fears, passions, hopes, concerns, insecurities, dreams, feelings and worries.
If rock and glass can’t be tossed together in a single day, why would you logically expect it to be plausible, even possible for something as complex and amazingly elaborate and symbiotically involved as a human being to change completely in one single day?
By the way, who decided that “New Years Day” is to be officially accepted by all as the official magical, mystical moment that all significant, personal change can and should be made?
Was there an election I never heard bout, or an official proclamation from God on high that I didn’t get the memo on? No, it’s just some arbitrary day that someone came up with out of the ether of pure imagination, and “BOOM” everyone just jumped on board like a bunch of sheep heading to slaughter.
First off, anyone who knows anything at all about psychology 101 knows beyond a shadow of a doubt that real, significant change takes more than a single day to set in process.
It is a matter of consistency over time that helps us to build new improved thought patterns and life-style habits. Some Psychiatrists, Psychologists, Doctors, Universities and Professors claim that it takes precisely 30 days to make any significant change in one’s life. Others say only 21, if one is really truly sincerely serious about making the change.
Either way, that’s a heck of a lot longer than the single 24 hour period supplied by the arrival of New Years Day. So give yourself a break and understand that 99.9% of all attempted change takes consistency of dedicated effort over a period of time, usually from 3 to 4 weeks.
So don’t get angry or frustrated with yourself because you promised you would stop smoking, lose weight, quit cussing, find true love or build a bigger more successful business stating this New Years, and you haven’t made your dream a reality yet.
Listen, getting angry, mad and upset about it only hinders your efforts further, making you more stressed and anxious and far less effective and resilient in your efforts, so getting ticked off is actually one of the powerful, self destructive things you are doing to set yourself up for utter failure.
Instead, it’s time to loosen up and lighten up. Then you can finally be fully free to really listen up. Change takes time, it takes effort, it takes dedication and most important, it takes consistency, as you develop a NEW better, healthier more positive and self satisfying HABIT or life-style.
Please don’t take it out on the one person who really truly wants what you want, longs for what makes you sincerely happy and honestly loves you and wishes you only the very best in happiness and success, yourself!
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