The media has done a great job in making women feel as if they need to meet certain standards.  These standards include tall, thin, blonde, etc.  Now the women who do not meet these criteria want to try to become them.  For example, they wear extremely high heels, go on crazy diets, dye their hair, etc.  Rather than trying to meet these criteria, women should try to perfect who they are.  There is nothing wrong with trying to look your best.  The problem arises when you do not do this in a healthy way or if you look like a replica of someone else.  Be your own person; that is the best way to achieve self-confidence. 

            Trying to conform to the media's standards slowly affects a woman's self-esteem.  They want to look like the women they see on television or in the magazines.  More often than not, these women's pictures are airbrushed or edited to look the way they do.  The incentive every woman should get from reading this is to work on feeling comfortable in their own skin.  Here are some ways that you can try in order to improve your self-esteem.  These are not the only ways, but they are good starting points.

            The first step would definitely be to admit and face your insecurities.  Ask yourself what are you insecure about?  What makes you feel down or as if you are not good enough?  Admitting these feelings is definitely where you should begin.  Next, you should discuss these issues with someone you are very close to and trust.  They can definitely give you great insight and can help you let out whatever it is that you are feeling.  Next, you should search within and find a talent or something you are good at.  Try to focus on this talent or talents because taking pride in something you are good at is definitely a confidence booster.  Another step towards self-confidence is by thinking and living life positively.  If you have a setback, do not sit there and sulk or try to get others to pity you.  Get up and fix whatever happened.  Trying again is what life is all about.  One confidence booster that may be difficult for some women is to look in the mirror and love what you see.  Big, small, short, or tall you are the way you are because you were created that way.  If you are overweight, there is nothing wrong with wanting to slim down.  However, it should only be to the point where you are healthy because you do not have to be stick skinny to be healthy.  Remaining healthy is your goal.  Finally, your last step to self-confidence is to be yourself and remember that no one is perfect.  The grass may seem greener on the other side, but it definitely is not.  Perfect the person you were meant to be and do not get caught up in looking like celebrities or even some of your friends.

            One way to enable this advice to come to life is by turning it into a hands-on project.  You can do this by simply decorating a corkboard however you would like.  Then, post up anything that inspires you, whether it be pictures, quotes, these steps, etc., or all of it.  Add as much as you want to this board and make sure you read it all the time, especially when you feel down or if you feel as if things are not going well.  Find your inspiration and incorporate it into your life so you can feel inspired on a daily basis.  That is the key to self-confidence and most importantly, happiness.

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